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Candid Candace
by Candace Cameron Bure |
Q: Hi
Candace, I’m a 29-year-old wife, and
mother of three beautiful children. I have
been raised in church all my life. We never
missed a service. Every time the doors were
open my family was present. Not only did
we stay in church, but the life my parents
and grandparents live are Christ-like, they
have set the very BEST example anyone could
for me, and still yet I struggle. I don’t
understand it.
I have the desire so much
to follow Christ with all my heart and to
seek what it is that He has for me. I want
to be an example for my children to follow
as they grow up. I know that kids are more
likely to do, as they see done, and not
as they’re told. I feel as though
I’ve lost my fire. I want to love
the Lord with all my heart, and with all
my soul and with all my mind. I just feel
lost sometimes.
I feel as if I don’t
recognize myself anymore from the young
girl I once was. When I was in Bible College
I was on fire. I read my Bible every day,
and I had the desire to sit down and sup
with the Lord. I feel I’ve lost that
fire, or I feel as a mom that I just can’t
find the alone time with Him. It’s
so hard for me to let others take care of
my kids and help me with things so I can
fellowship with the Lord.
We’re new to the church
that we are attending now, and my husband
and I don’t agree 100% on the style
of church we should attend. I want so badly
for us both to be involved in church, but
he doesn’t see it exactly the way
I do. Please can you give me any advice
on my rambling? :)
I’m just a normal
everyday country girl, and so I’m
not really good at writing a story, but
I know where I need help and I saw your
website and thought I'd ask you. You and
your brother are an inspiration to me. I
grew up with watching you on T.V. and it’s
so exciting that now we can share the same
faith. Thank you for your advice in advance.
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A:Thanks
so much for your email. I too have times
in my life where my walk with the Lord is
on fire only to have the heat turned down
for a few months. I wonder why this happens
myself. But rest assured, it happens to
most of us. I don't ever lose my love for
the Lord, but my zeal...yes. I get caught
up with Val, the kids, summer plans, school,
traveling, speaking--all the things that
are important, but only to take my attention
off God for a while. And I hate when I allow
everything else to take priority over my
time with God.
It's like Paul said in Romans
7:15 "For what I am doing, I do not
understand. For what I will to do, that
I do not practice; but what I hate, that
I do." (I encourage you to read Romans
7:13-25).
I too have not spent the
time I wanted to and should have this summer
with the Lord. And I've felt my flame get
dim. My dear friend lovingly tells us in
our Bible study group every so often to
keep our eyes fixed on the Lord so we don't
get off track. She relates it to swimming
in the ocean. If you ever have, you'll know
that the current will continually push you
left or right. You have to keep your eyes
focused on your spot at shore (where your
towel is- or in our kids case--mom and dad)
or else you'll lose site of where you are
as the current sweeps you away. It's never
intentional, but nevertheless, it happens.
We need to do that with
God. Keep our eyes fixed on Him, because
with our every day activities we get swept
up in our tasks and lose site of our place
with Him. Getting that flame lit? Well,
if you're anything like me, I start praying
about it every day when I realize I'm slipping.
And when I get to the point I don't think
I'll get revved up again, the Lord tugs
at my heart. He often takes me to a place
of emptiness for me to know that only He
can fill me up. And there's nothing like
a good gut wrenching sermon to give me a
humbling kick in the butt to remember what
Christ did for me.
Most importantly, you HAVE
to schedule time with the Lord. If it means
waking up a half hour early before you get
the kids up, then that's what you do. I
know I have to hit my knees as soon as I
roll out of bed each morning or my day just
won't be right. I don't always read the
Word first thing, but I make sure I put
aside time every day for it. There's no
way around it. If your kids are napping
or entertaining themselves for a few minutes,
you have to take that opportunity to read
God's Word or pray. The laundry will still
be there in 15 minutes; it's not going to
run away. :)
Also, I think summer time
is hardest for me because that's when my
Bible study group takes a break. All of
us travel, so we resume when school starts.
I realize how important my small group is,
meeting each week at my home. They help
keep me accountable and focused.
So I would encourage you
to find a small group Bible study through
your church, or if you know 4 or 5 women
that would be interested in meeting at one
of your homes each week. Fellowship and
study with other believers is something
I believe God intended for us to do.
Church styles? Try to find
a church you're both happy with. I'll tell
you to lean towards your husband's style
if it doesn't kill you. Better to go to
church together with a style you're not
as impressed with than not go at all. But
I cautiously warn you to make sure it's
a solid Bible teaching church. If it doesn't
hold true to the Bible, then I would continue
looking for a church. You can find an article
on how to find a good church on my website.
I hope this helps and is
an encouragement to you. :)
About The Author:
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Candace
is best known for her role as DJ Tanner
on ABC's hit sitcom Full House.
Over the years, Candace has been on
a self-imposed hiatus in support of
her husband, NHL hockey star Valeri
Bure and their three beautiful children,
ages 4, 6 & 8. Candace
currently speaks at various churches,
colleges, and outreach events throughout
the year sharing her testimony and
Christian faith. She has a heart for
evangelism and recently traveled on
a missionary trip to Ghana, Africa.
Her long history of charitable work
includes the Starlight Foundation,
Make-A-Wish, Compassion International,
Children's Hunger Fund and Sheridan
House Family Ministries.
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